There are days when one would think, I won’t talk to so and so in any way, be it text or call them. They have done me wrong by doing this or that. Have you ever experienced silent treatment yourself? Or has it just been how you cope?
We need to stop making sulking fashionable too, that’s so toxic. If they did you wrong , unless the silent treatment is a way of you trying to calm down before you acknowledge what the next person did to you and confronting them when you are more calm.
Silent treatment when used as punishment is another form of emotional abuse, the hurt person is a totally retaliating against those who pained them in an abusive manner too, this might be unintentionally, but we need to normalize opening up when others weing us instead of sulking.
Being sulky may be a coping mechanism because you have allowed it to be but in all honesty is toxic. You can’t expect people to guess how hurt you are because you chose to be toxic. Most beautiful relationships fail because partners opt to sulk than deal with issues they faced with. Silent treatment is damaging but many think is the best solution to their problems.
Even with parents your kids see you sulking and starr thinking it’s okay to sulk, its really not. Emotional abuse is damaging and if you going to rather sulk than be open about what’s eating you then be a sole rider and not make friends. People go through so mu h to add such toxicity in their lives.
If you not feeling well, rather let people know than to be grumpy and only when you ousted for being sulky then you blame it in being sick. When you sick let people know and also mention you’d love some time to heal and you won’t be welcoming guests until you better.
I know, I am one grumpy person when I am sick and I always tell family and friends that I will be bad company , some think I need to surround myself with loved ones when sick, I don’t because I completely shut out when I am not well and prefer sleeping and being left alone.
I do allow other ways of communicating but no visits. So total silence is no good especially for your loved ones. Learn to be firm when angered, let those who upset you know they did instead of sulking and having them send endless apology or explanatory messages , it is really not fair to do that, that’s pure abuse.
Let’s relearn ways to be better people who communicate even when wronged ,
Love always
Molemole ❤
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